Posted by LEgWarmers on January 22, 2006, at 14:43:36
In reply to Can “giving up” be a compulsion?, posted by pseudoname on January 22, 2006, at 14:22:19
>If I don't try anything, I won't be criticised or humiliated for my imperfect attempt!
i have a terrible problem with this, its like an odd form of perfectionism to me. Some people laugh when they hear me call myself one, but most people I would say agree and call me one. In fact Im teased about it. But when it applies to the more important things in life...well, I don't want to know what my real skills are, maybe its easier to say, "I didnt try, so its understnadable that Im a total lazy f*ck up" than to do your best and not do perfect.
I think it is more of a conditioned coping strategy that needs to be broken, I don't think it's a compulsion. I also think that our environment allows us to be like this and we learn to work around it. Then one day you get a wake up call! I totally understnad where you are coming from.
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