Posted by madeline on January 22, 2006, at 10:21:51
This has been stumping me for quite some time and I still haven't been able to resolve it.
I've been in therapy with the same therapist for over 6 years. He is a wonderful doctor and has genuinely helped me a lot. We haven't always gotten along, but he has been very patient and I have been willing to trust him.
I know that I love him and I know that he loves me (but only in the therapeutic space) and we actually express how we feel for each other all the time.
I do wish for more of a relationship and he has expressed his desire for it too, but both of us know and are quite grateful for the boundaries that must exist between us in order for therapy to continue.
So, how do I contain, describe, deal with etc.. the relationship as it now is? He is in my thoughts a lot, and when I do meet a new man, it isn't as though how I feel about my T interferes, although they certainly overlap, but it's still causing me some stress and anxiety.
I guess the bottomline is that I am still dealing with a wish that will never be granted and it hurts.
Any ideas?
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thread:601779
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