Posted by daisym on January 15, 2006, at 17:49:15
In reply to Re: Can one really be a grownup » sleepygirl, posted by Dinah on January 15, 2006, at 17:30:13
I think the most grown up thing we can do is choose what makes us happy. US. Not them.
We can choose chocolate, or sex or crayons.
We can choose going to bed early, staying up late or sleeping in.
We can choose therapy, or primal screaming or support groups.
Of course there are still things we HAVE to do,or limitations on what kind of choices we might have. (like money) But being a grown up means accepting those and choosing to fill the rest of your time with things you like, instead of dwelling on what you can't have or don't like. Sometimes we choose to do what someone else likes, but still, we know we are choosing and we are OK with that. It isn't coercion or guilt or currency.
I think that is what makes us grown up.
Everything else comes when we make choices that make us happy.Seems so simple. But for me at least, it is impossibly hard. I guess because I'm not grown up yet.
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