Posted by LegWarmers on January 12, 2006, at 23:21:20
In reply to Re: Am I being too sensitive? » LegWarmers, posted by daisym on January 12, 2006, at 0:06:42
> I have found that caring people suggest what has worked for them. So this acquantaince may have had a positive therapy experience.
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> And isn't it nice that she felt enough compassion to get involved?Yeah, I made myself way more upset about it then I needed to.
Don't be embarrassed that someone noticed you were suffering. If you saw someone's sadness fleet across their face, I bet you would extend some concern.
I would, Im embarrassed that I cryed, Im upset Im feeling so sh*tty. But you're right I wouldnt judge someone else like that.
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> I'd like to share two experiences. Almost three years ago in late March, I was sitting in my office with the lights off, trying to decide which bridge to jump off of. Seriously. On of my work friends came in and said, "you need help. Please let me know what is happening." All could do was cry. But I swear, she saved me, just by sticking her nose in. She pushed and pulled and a few months later I was in therapy. But for so long I couldn't let down, I couldn't let anyone see but boy did I need a push towards helping myself.I so glad she said something!
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> Last year I hired a young woman to work on a new project. She moved to our area to get away from an abusive relationship. We were on a business trip together and she confided that she still had nightmares so she cried out in her sleep. She was embarrassed. I listened and asked her gently how she was helping herself heal. I shared a few ideas. A month later she burst into tears at work. I took her in my office, let her cry on my shoulder and hooked her up with a woman's group. This December she wrote me the most beautiful poem and told me that I was the first person to ever care enough to offer help. I was astonished. And reminded one more time that we never know when a small action on our part makes a huge difference to someone else.
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> I just wanted to offer a different perspective. I wish you weren't hurting so much.
> Hugs,
> DaisyThanks for sharing your stories. I think I wasn't in the best place to hear her suggestions as kind or useful but I do now. Im seeing my pdoc tomorrow, I'll use a bandaid for a while.
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