Posted by Frida on December 23, 2005, at 9:53:14
In reply to Gift Giving, posted by daisym on December 22, 2005, at 20:54:26
Dear (((Daisy))))
That's very sweet...
Giving him a CD with songs that have touched you is very special and doesn't it feel comforting and safe to know he'll listen to it?I saw my T yesterday and now I won't see her for a month and a week :-(
I made her a drawing...of our work together. I drew her and a lot of things about T and how I feel for her. I drew her with a blanket which had words like hope, honesty, truth, openness..
I drew her healing butterflies, I drew myself near an abandoned ship, and broken things, puzzles, etc...but with some calmness because of her. Also a lighthouse, etc.
I framed it and gave that to her and she loved it :-)She also gave me something for me to hold on to and that meant the world to me, especially since I won't be seeing her for so long. She gave me a book that is special to her for me to take care of it until she returns, and a CD she always listens to..
I love giving gifts to her that are from my heart, and that express something I can't say with words.
She can see a lot in my drawings and for me it's relieving, it's like showing her part of my heart.
:-)Thanks for letting me share,
((((Daisy))))safety,
Frida> So today I gave my therapist two things that made me think of him. The first was easy to give -- a silly little book called "Chocolate Therapy" and a smart *ss card. The book essentially asks about your favorite kind of chocolate, what shape and what center and tells you about yourself. One of the shapes listed was a spiral, which I marked for him. He laughed.
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> The second, main gift, made me a lot more nervous. It was a CD of really beautiful music that had "spoken" to me and I wanted to share it with him. (I was nervous because I found out the song I really connected with on the CD was called, I Love You.) I wrote him a long note in a card saying that if my therapy had a sound track this would be it. And I told him which song was my favorite but that I was worried he would misunderstand my intention in giving it to him. I shouldn't have worried. He received it with the grace he always does and said that my card touched him and he couldn't wait to listen to the song. At the end of the session, he thanked me again and I looked at him and said, "thank you for letting me do this for you. It feels nice." He said I certainly didn't need to get him a gift but he could tell that this came from a really special, heartfelt place and he was glad I shared it with him.
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> And of course I cried when I left (geez, it is only a 4 day separation!) and made him promise to be careful during the weekend. And then called later and left a stupid message. I hate this weepy sad place I'm in but I'm really glad that he liked his gift. :)
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> Anyone else want to share?
poster:Frida
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