Posted by Tamar on November 30, 2005, at 21:15:20
In reply to Re: You are just too much! LOL, posted by happyflower on November 30, 2005, at 20:46:40
> I remember when I asked him what he would do if I cried. He said what do you think, I will throw you out of the room? LOL (he probably would like to sometimes but not because I cry.) My Dh used to be my support system where I could get all out, but now I cry alone and it isn't the same.
No, it really isn’t the same. You need to find comfort somehow.
> I do trust my T completely and know he won't hit me or anything if I cry, but is is so scary to be so vunerable. Plus knowing he won't hug me, makes me what to avoid it at all costs. You know if he only knew that actuallly hugging me would let down my defenses, it would be a good thing probably. But he doesn't and won't.
That’s the thing, isn’t it? Physical touch could make it possible to say all the things we’re holding back… if only those therapists would just allow it. I reckon if there’s a symbolism in touch, we should be able to use that symbolism to our advantage. We should be able to use it to make therapy easier.
I really liked Daisy’s suggestion about talking to him tomorrow. I imagine you don’t want to jinx it, but on the other hand, if he really is a soulmate, you can’t jinx it. Soulmates tend to understand any circumstances…
Tamar
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