Posted by Tamar on November 30, 2005, at 19:48:16
In reply to Feeling nervous and scared about tomorrow, posted by happyflower on November 30, 2005, at 10:14:06
> Tomorrow is my appointment, and I feel my stomach already turning. How do you go back after a month of waiting. I thought I was looking forward to it, but now I just want to hide . I am thinking about not exercising tomorrow because I don't want to run into him there before my appointment.
That’s very understandable.
> I feel like I will dissapoint him for not doing well lately. How do I tell him how badly I am doing?
I don’t think you will disappoint him. Sometimes therapy is not a smooth progression from pain to happiness. Sometimes there are setbacks. He will understand.
> I just want to run and hide in a hole and stay there until it is safe to come out. I don't want to cry, but that is how I feel, weepy, sad and just want to die.
I know you said you are not that bad, but it looks to me as if you are feeling really unhappy.
I wonder if part of the problem is that you’re facing a decision about the future of your marriage, and perhaps that is very unsettling for you. I know that it can involve feelings of being unloved and unwanted.
So I want you to know that we love you very much and we want you around. I know it’s not the same as your partner… but it’s genuine.
What are you wearing to therapy tomorrow? I’m thinking the long black boots might give you some confidence…
And just a little push… do you think you can ask to see him in two weeks instead of four? Would that help?
(((((Happyflower)))))
I’ll be thinking of you.
Tamar
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