Posted by thuso on November 26, 2005, at 20:32:55
In reply to Re: In the home stretch now » LipGloss, posted by happyflower on November 26, 2005, at 18:27:46
I've kept my mouth shut through all of your posts, but I will say now that I agree with LipGloss. Not that I think your feelings aren't real, but rather I think you are on the edge of crossing a line. That's what worries me.
> I know he is married, how do you know he is happily married? How do you know how he really feels ? Do you know my T? I am a very realistic person in real life, so I know what I am feeling and I what I see from him.
>The point is that he is married. It doesn't matter if he is happy or not. Right now he has a commitment to his wife and you need to respect that. And I can't really see how joking about your panties like you were mentioning is showing any respect to his wife or him. It's one thing to joke around. I'm fine with that. But if you respect him as much as I think you do, then you need to really be careful on how far you take this. I know you know he can't do anything even if he felt true feelings for you outside of being a patient. I think that is why LipGloss wrote what he/she did. LipGloss doesn't want you to get hurt.
>I just wonder how you think you know more about this situation than me.
>It is not that we necessarily are saying we know more about the situation than you, but are rather trying to suggest caution in what you are planning to do. It's all from an outside perspective.
As an example, have you ever had a friend who really liked a guy, but you could see what a jerk he really was and knew he'd treat your friend horribly? (I'm not saying this is your therapist at all!!!) You would tell her that she should be careful or stay way, right? Your friend might say that you don't know what you're talking about, but that would be because she is blind with love. That is why I think someone like LipGloss can say what he/she did. It's an outside perspective. We are often blind to things when we are in the middle of the circumstance.
Just be careful and think it through. No one here wants to see you get hurt by this. Have you talked to him about boundaries and how far is ok for you to go? That might be the best discussion before doing something with your panties. ;-)
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