Posted by annierose on November 23, 2005, at 21:34:29
In reply to Re: How long do you stay in therapy?, posted by sleepygirl on November 23, 2005, at 21:25:22
You wrote: >>>I've got so many relationships in which I don't feel connected.<<<<
I think lots of us feel that way. And that's why therapy is so important. You can practice feeling connected with your therapist, test how that feels, test the relationship, practice being assertive, etc. etc. Once you get comfortable with that feeling, you can bring these new experiences into your real life relationships. I know my husband sees lots of changes in me (I wish I saw more in him!). Knowing that my T would accept me no matter what I said, helped me say what I really needed to with my husband.
I'm not sure I'm making sense, I'm tired. What you wrote struck a chord with me. Don't feel bad not feeling connected. Test out that feeling with your T. Do you feel connected with him?
Aren't you glad he is saying to you, "You're in charge of this relationship, whether I'm in your life or not?" He won't kick you out. You get to decide that. I know that tiring feeling of always having to make decisions. But in therapy, for me, it's comforting to know my T is there for me as long as I need her.
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