Posted by Shortelise on November 22, 2005, at 22:05:11
In reply to How do you know what you're supposed to say?, posted by CareBear04 on November 22, 2005, at 10:38:39
I go to therapy to talk about the things in mylife that are causing me problems, that are causing me pain. I talk how I feel about the things that happen in my life, about the past, about the present and the future. Sometimes I'll read a paragraph or two of somehting that has struck me, or I'll talk abot a film or TV thing.Sometimes I'll talk about my cat.
When I have trouble getting started, I sometimes ask him if he can help me get started, though he knows me well enough now to give me a hand when he thinks I need it.
You could talk about how difficult it is to talk. That's a good place to start! :-)
WHen we go to therapy because of things that are so painful we can't talk about them at first, even though it's why we're there, well, that's just so ... I hate to say "normal", but I really think it is normal. You could give yourself time to get to know the guy, to see how you feel about being there. You could try to be very patient with both yourself and him - it's a new relationship, and those take time.
I hope it works out for you. Therapy can be uncomfortable sometimes, but for me at least, it has proved worth the discomfort.
And of course there is no "right" or "wrong" thing to say, by the way.
ShortE
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