Posted by one woman cine on November 21, 2005, at 7:38:28
In reply to Re: Destructive therapists » one woman cine, posted by Susan47 on November 19, 2005, at 9:35:56
Thanks for the warm welcome everyone. I'm just going to try to give the 50 second rundown of this for the sake of brevity - this unfortunate quagmire could fill a book.
First let me preface this by saying there was no sexual misconduct and that it was not a man but a woman. Having said that, let me also say, that this whole episode was still an egregious violation of boundaries.
Initially, I went to this therapist due to family situations and life events. It was once a week. It slowly began to turn into the 3x's a week analysis. This was done under the idea that it was "in my best interest", like of the behaviors and ideas she espoused. In fact, she needed a "case" in order to get her certification (unbeknownst to me) & it was in her own best interest I was began this enterprise. There was active deception with the anecdotes and so-called information she was telling me, which I only found out about much, much later.
Now, I know about the theories in analysis concerning "good mothering" and what that means in the analyst/analsand relationship. She too this interpretation too far. She often called me at home several times a week (without being asked by me), told me intimate details of her life - past and present, and without going into the all the details - began to further the idea she was going to be MY "good mother" - an idea she actively made real through her behavior toward me.
However, she was unpredictable in many respects & her actions were often hurtful, which she chalked up to her "style" & "oops, oh well". Despite this, therapy with her became my entire life, without thoguht or regard to anything else. & my life began a downward spiral due to this intensive and twisted "therapy". Anyway, that's it in a nutshell, thanks for your comments and ideas.
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