Posted by B2chica on November 17, 2005, at 9:56:00
In reply to My Homework, posted by daisym on November 16, 2005, at 19:44:42
> I started yesterday with, "I don't want to." And added "I don't like that. It hurts me." And ended up teetering on the edge of controlled hysteria of outrage with: "do you KNOW what he did to me...and made me do??!" And though I've told him, he simply said, "tell me." And then after I told him, he said, "tell me about after - what did you feel after it was over?" Tears never cried came out. And lots more "I didn't want to(s)." I was shaking with fright at my boldness and rage.
i'm proud of you. this is so good to hear.
>>At one point he said, "you are allowed to say no to stuff you don't like or don't want to do, now or in the future. Just because someone else likes it or wants it, especially sexual things, doesn't mean you have to." I must have looked stunned because he said, "really. Not everything is a negotiation. You can say no."
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> Is that true? I keep waiting for the other shoe to drop. I just KNOW I'm going to get into trouble by admitting "I didn't want to." Because now whose fault is it really?-that's EXACTLY how i feel. like i'll get in more trouble if i say no or resist.
> I just wish I could stop crying as I say all this.-you will. you are so strong and have helped me so much.
b2c.
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