Posted by Dinah on November 15, 2005, at 21:20:26
In reply to Re: Annierose » fallsfall, posted by Annierose on November 13, 2005, at 15:34:33
>>> Yes, I do want to matter to my therapist. I know she cares about me, but do I matter, as a person? When she goes about her daily life outside the office, does she ever come across something, a book, a movie and think, "Annie would like this." And as I wrote that sentence I remembered she saw the movie "June Bug" and told me she thought I would like the movie, that I probably could identify with one of the characters. So of course I went to see the movie. But even my dsyfunctional family wasn't that cold. Since I own a business, is she ever curious about going there (when she knows I'm away)?
Awww, sweetie. I so understand. Even though I know my therapist cares about me, I'm also relatively certain he forgets about me pretty quickly, if only because that's who he is as a person. But I'm sure your therapist cares about you as a person, and you come across her mind in the way that people in your life do. When something comes along that reminds her of you. She might even be curious about your life. But they're (fortunately) not as obsessive in their interest as we are. At least we hope they aren't, or they wouldn't be very good therapists. But she sees you in a very intense situation three times a week. Of course she thinks of you in the other hours. :)
I'm glad she's trying hard to convey her caring. My therapist was saying this week that he thought part of how intensive and long term therapy worked was knowing that there was someone out there who genuinely cared about you. I think that if they didn't care, it would shine through. But caring is a lot harder to absorb.
>>> By the way, I hope you had another solid session with your T today. At least you didn't have to wait as long to see him, but a week is still a long time inbetween in therapy-time. I understand that completely.
Yeah. We talked a lot about that, and how different it was from twice a week. And we talked about whether it was ok or healthy for me to use therapy the way I use it. He got pretty angry that I was questioning it. He seems to be a bit bristly lately. Stress I guess. It was a pretty good session, in that I felt the connection in the second half of the double session.
>>>> Thank you for your support. It really helped me today. I really needed it.
Any time. And I mean that. Don't think that I'll ever forget your kindness in the days after Katrina. You are truly a special person.
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