Posted by allisonross on October 29, 2005, at 13:35:01
In reply to Re: What I would like you all to know » allisonross, posted by LadyBug on October 29, 2005, at 11:41:09
> Dear LadyBug:
I am so sorry.
What has pushed me closer to leaving my marriage. It isn't just one thing, but maybe the push is. He cheated on me about a month ago, with an employee he worked with, he got fired over it!!! And he was drinking. I won't go into details, but they didn't "do it" the intent was there still the same. Now I have no insurance and don't know how I am going to get my meds.......
This is unconsciounable!
.along with him having other problems I've had enough of. I can't trust him at all and I'm tired of living in a marriage where the trust is completly gone and has been for years.
> Thank goodness I have my therapist to help me sort through what I want to do. My family would like to see me leave as they see him as abusive to me and my girls by the choices he makes in his life. It is not physical just emotional.I know all about emotional (verbal) abuse; lived it for 31 years with the ex, and before that with the crazy mother.
He is so self destructive and it comes down and hurts us so much. He's been fired from 3 jobs, but this last one was and is hard for me to handle. He was invloved with a girl 20 years younger than him. I've told him for months to leave her alone but he obviously didn't care about my feelings.
This is none of my business, but if you are still having sex with him, you should use protection.
He blames it on her,
Typical of narcissist abusers; always blame the other person. Can't own their own stuff.
oh give me a break. As my therapist says it has to be at least 50-50, it takes 2 to tango.
There is only 1 thing wrong with that analogy (you can tell your t I told you so, LOL)...when there is abuse involved it is only ONE person doing the dance; the other person is innocent. Just like when a child is being molested, it is a criminal act by only ONE person.
> I'm waiting for a full time job to open up in about a month, if I get it, the decision will be mine if I can leave and take care of my 2 girls.I hope you can get that job. You don't (and your girls) don't deserve that treatment.
> I'm way off the subject here, sorry.
> I hope to read your article this weekend when I have some time. I'll write more soon.i will look forward to it!
> You are very friendly! That's awesome.
You are very friendly too, cute little ladybug person!
> LadyBugHugs and Love, Ally
P.S. As an aside, I just spent 2 hours on the phone with a man who is suicidal. His girlfriend broke up with him. SHe is abusive. What a story he had to tell. It's amazing how people find me. I consider it a responsibility and honor to help hurting people; there are so many!
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