Posted by fallsfall on October 28, 2005, at 17:51:32
I think that we have come to an understanding. It can take a lot of work to get to a place where you can understand each other.
I will (try to) stop talking about MY therapy with other people (both online and IRL). This means that I won't talk about how I am feeling towards my therapist, nor about what he says or doesn't say, nor about our relationship. I will do this because he feels that the therapy will be more effective if I'm not getting feedback and advise on how to deal with HIM. He wants me to work out how to deal with him, with him.
I do trust him. I trust him to be skillful. I trust him to have my best interests at heart. I trust him to help me figure out how to deal with him. I am able to be open and honest enough with him to do this.
There will be times when he drives me crazy, and at those times I can say that he's driving me crazy, but not HOW he's driving me crazy. At those times I would love to have support and comfort, but not advice on what to do about him.
I couldn't do this if I didn't really and truly trust him. But I do trust him.
So I won't be starting new threads on this board, because threads on this board are about therapy. But I'll read this board (and respond when I have something to say). I'll try to post on Social about things in my life - because heaven only knows that I need help with stuff in my life! So I hope that those of you who would like to keep tabs on me will check over on social occasionally (like now, I will be posting a new thread tonight - I could use some feedback on school/family stuff.)
It makes me a little sad to make this change. But I'm not scared to do it. Thanks for all the help so far!
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thread:572795
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