Posted by fairywings on October 21, 2005, at 15:13:10
In reply to Re: Worst I've Ever Heard » cricket, posted by alexandra_k on October 20, 2005, at 16:39:26
>>The reason why you don't learn that the well is dry is because he has you on an intermittent reinforcement schedule. SOMETIMES he ackowledges your feelings as legitimate. OTHERTIMES he discounts them. That intermittent schedule... >>Keeps you going back. Thats the hardest cycle to break. If he was kind like that all the time he would be helping you. If he was unkind like that all the time you would leave in an eyeblink (unless you were willing / able to discount yourself completely). But he has you on this funny schedule... And you allow him to continue on with this by internalising it and doubting yourself never knowing whether your feelings are legitimate or not.
I agree with Alex on everything. When I was a teen my shrink was exactly like this, he preyed on my weaknesses, and it was really hard to leave. Of course I didn't see it at the time because I was so dependent on him. When I told him I'd never be back, he laughed and said, "You'll be back....you'll be back." I never went back, and after years I resented what he did to me. I was much sicker after being with him than before. I hope you can find the strength to pull away and find someone else.
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