Posted by fairywings on October 20, 2005, at 8:51:14
In reply to We could not know, posted by terrics on October 19, 2005, at 8:43:44
> Sometimes we forget they are human. e.g. If there is someone very sick in their families we do not know it and wonder why they are so distracted in our sessions. Most will not tell us that something personal is going on. terrics
I think in a way it's helpful to know, and we could be more sensitive to them, but in another way, I'm not sure how it affects us. Last week my T told me some of his story, and it paralleled mine. I felt he didn't have any empathy for me in our appt., and then he told me his father is dying. I would like to be sensitive to my T, and I don't want to see him hurting, but doesn't that muddy the therapeutic relationship? Given the choice, I'd rather have a real relationship and be sensitive to what the other person is going through, but when we know such personal things how can we even think about our own problems. Now I don't know if I can continue to open up, or open up w/o feeling guilty about it.
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