Posted by Tamar on October 19, 2005, at 19:22:10
In reply to Talking about transference to your husband/SO?, posted by orchid on October 19, 2005, at 16:36:06
I suppose it depends what you hope to gain from it. If you simply want your husband to understand you better, then perhaps it’s possible. But if you have feelings of guilt about it, it might be better to keep quiet (or confess to someone else).I have talked to my husband about my transference and he was fairly understanding but he did find it a bit difficult.
If you think your husband can understand that there’s sometimes a special kind of connection between a therapist and a client, and that a client sometimes has strong feelings for a therapist that come out of the things they’re working on together, then perhaps it’ll be OK.
But I do think that if you tell your husband about your feelings for your T you might find yourself having to explain some of the stuff about your father. I don’t know how much your husband is aware of that, or whether he can understand your feelings about it. In a way, that might be even more significant than a discussion about your transference… I guess it depends on how much you trust your husband.
What do you think?
Tamar
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