Posted by Tamar on October 10, 2005, at 6:10:06
In reply to Developing an aversion to therapy, posted by orchid on October 7, 2005, at 19:21:17
> I have been developing too much of aversion to therapy these days.
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> I don't like it.
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> I know..
> I know..
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> I have benefited so very much from it.
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> But. It was too painful. The transference and termination and getting deep into oneself.Yeah, I’ve felt that way sometimes. In fact, every time I feel depressed and wonder if I should go back to my T, my first thought is: “I can’t do it. It’s too painful.”
> Was it worth it? Yes.. But still, I hate it now. I even have developed an aversion towards therapists (not GG and EE). I hate therapists for the way they do therapy. For the way they induce so much of attachment in patients (though it is no fault of their own). I hate the way they designed therapy in modern medicine. It is way too wrong.
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> Anybody can understand?
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I think I do understand. But also perhaps it’s worth considering that your feelings might have a lot to do with the way therapy ended in both cases. Your first therapist terminated you in a very painful way, and even with your second therapist you finished therapy because you were moving away and not because you had come to a point where you felt you had finished. So perhaps some things are still unfinished for you. And perhaps you know the pain is still there but it’s hard to imagine going back to therapy because it *is* hard work.I suspect the attachment thing is OK when the client gets to work through it completely and come to her own conclusion that she doesn’t need her therapist any more. But I think it’s harder if therapy finishes before the client feels ready to leave the therapist.
Just my two cents.
Tamar
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