Posted by Tamar on September 27, 2005, at 4:52:36
In reply to Re: too much information! » Tamar, posted by orchid on September 26, 2005, at 20:51:15
Hi Orchid! How are you? It’s nice to see you posting.
> Don't drive past his house. Not so much for the ethics, but for the sense of helplessness it will induce in you. Plus maybe it will make you embarrased of yourself. Also, it might prevent you from moving on.
You’re probably right.
> If you wish, maybe google him from time to time, and if you find some new information, you can be happy with that, but driving past his house is little too intimate. If you do it once, you will be very tempted to do it again and again whenever you miss him. And that will increase your dependancy on him, and reduce your own sense of self control.
It’s funny… I realised last night that I’ve driven past his house several times (without knowing it was where he lived). I’ve never intended to be on that road; there’s a wrong turning I make consistently when I’m over that way, and every time I make the wrong turn I’m annoyed at myself. But now I think it’s funny that I’ve been driving past his house without realising it! I’m sure if I set out to drive past his house I’d forget to make the wrong turn and I’d end up going the correct way for once.
The strangest thing of all is that I’m not feeling any longing for him at all this week. Yeah, I was a mess last week, but this week it’s better. I suppose it will be back though…
How are you doing, Orchid? Are things going well for you?
Tamar
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