Posted by Shortelise on September 19, 2005, at 12:43:55
In reply to Therapy and Inner children, posted by cricket on September 19, 2005, at 8:39:16
> We've circled a bit around this issue for a few days. But Fairywings got me thinking that there seem to be a fair number of us with inner children that show up at therapy.
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> So I was wondering what the different experiences really are?
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> Do you go to therapy with the idea that an inner child is going to speak?
I didn't.
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> Or does it just happen spontaneously?
yes
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> Do you actually let them speak?
I never did - it didn't occur to me that this was an option
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> Is it in a kid's voice?
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> Or do they speak in your head and you translate?Not really. My T was able to help me recognize the origin of my feelings, the catalyst to how I was acting. The inner child was not so much talking as acting out.
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> How does your therapist react?
With caring
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> Is she/he caring?
> yup
> Does your therapist talk in an age appropriate way?
> always
> Or does your therapist talk the same as he does to adult you?
he seems to recognize when I am in regressed feelings and talks to me in was gentle, calm, warm way.
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> Do all your inner children like your therapist?I hold a lot of anger toward "authority". He's a doc, and I mistrust them
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> How do you feel when your therapist spends a session interacting with one of the kids?
Cared for
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> Do you ever feel like your therapist takes their side over yours?
He always tries to integrate the child with the adult me, not separate them. They are a facet of what is Me
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> Do your kids talk to you outside of therapy?
Not in voices that are separate from my own, but I do have reactions, actions and thoughts that are not the integrated Me
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> If so, do they talk about your therapist?You bet ya they do. When I am feeling afraid of him, afraid that he is going to dump me, hurt me, suspect him of bad things, suspect that he hates me, wants to hurt me, etc, that is NOT my mature mind in actions, but the coming out of my child fears, the resurgence of the feelings I had about the adults around me when I was little. But I don't have a sepreate "voice", I just have feelings, and I tell myself these things.
I hope this helps, Cricket. It's interesting to think about this in the way you ask these questions.
ShortE
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