Posted by Tamar on September 14, 2005, at 17:31:04
In reply to Re: Tamar? » Tamar, posted by Dinah on September 12, 2005, at 22:19:15
> Those are difficult dates. I think it's quite normal to feel depressed around times of loss.
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> How do you feel about continuing to feel this way six months after your last session. Do you think something needs to be resolved?That's a very good question! I suppose the obvious thing is that the transference is still somewhat unresolved. I've found the transference useful over the last few months, and despite the agony I've been able to be quite analytical about it.
It's changed several times and every time it changes I go through some kind of obsession like this, so maybe there's more in there. But I do recognise that there are limits to my abilities to analyse it on my own.
When I was still in therapy I was able to figure out what the basic issues were and then discuss those without having to confess all my most secret feelings. But at least I had him to talk to about things. And now I've spent six months trying to continue with the same kind of analysis, only without the man who helped.
> Is it at all possible to think of seeing someone, either him or someone else?
I think it's obvious that I need to. I haven't done any work for a week. I've just been having imaginary conversations with someone who probably barely remembers me. But whether it's possible to think of seeing either him or someone else... that's harder. I'm resisting it so strongly that I sense I really need to deal with it.
> I'm sorry you're feeling sad, Tamar. I wish I could help somehow.
You do help. You help a lot. Thank you so much!
Tamar
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