Posted by All Done on September 10, 2005, at 0:54:23
In reply to Re: It wasn't really about hair color, of course » All Done, posted by Annierose on September 8, 2005, at 6:13:01
> It's nice when the men in our lives notice changes, especially all the good ones. Beefcake is a sweetie. I agree, it was an authentic response.
Thanks. Even though on one hand I believe it was an authentic response, there's still huge part inside me saying there's no way he could have meant it. Yuk. Stuff like this is such a struggle for me.
> My T has mentioned the quality of our sessions sometimes. In fact, just recently she commented that I seemed less distracted, more in the room, talking more about past pains. It was in reply to my question, "are we going anywhere with this stuff?".
I'm glad to hear other Ts comment on the quality of sessions. That's one of the things I love most about having Babble to share our experiences. Very little about therapy seems odd to me anymore (at least after I come here and ask or read). Hmm, that's a good thing, right? ;)
> BTW - What was his other response to "How are you doing today?". When my T got back from her 2+ week summer vacation (who's counting ...) I told her I was going to ask her how her vacation was, but I already had the conversation:
>
> Me: How was your vacation?
> Her: Fine (reply 1) - or -
> Her: Do you have any feelings about my going away? (reply 2)
>
> --- neither reply would be satisfying so I wasn't going to ask. She laughed. And thankfully, moved forward.:-)
Shortly after I was whining about the fact that I didn't know anything about him, Beefcake told me he was tired because he was working on finishing his basement or something like that. All I heard was, "wuh, wuh, wuh, wuh, wuh" like Charlie Brown's teacher. That's when I realized that when I *think* I want to know more about his "real" life, it may really be about something else or some other need of mine.
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