Posted by Gabbix2 on August 29, 2005, at 6:54:37 [reposted on August 29, 2005, at 19:11:54 | original URL]
In reply to Re: does it really? » Gabbix2, posted by gardenergirl on August 29, 2005, at 2:35:43
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> > > I feel the need to say that I absolutely own my reactions to posts which upset me. Posts do not "make me" feel anything.
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> > Do you think everyone should be able to resist feeling if they are hurting or terrified of something? I'm wondering where the line is..meaning, if you were caught in a fire, should you be able to choose something other than fear because It wasn't the fire that made you feel afraid?
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> Hi Gabbi,
> I'm not at all saying that owning feelings means that you can "choose" not to feel something or should resist something. Heck, I'm about as emotional as they come. What I mean by owning feelings is understanding that the feeling lies within you.Well, yes, that's true, but if you can't choose to feel another way, then isn't that saying that certain posts have the power to make people upset?
They bring it out in them.. each person is unique but we all have things we react to, and can't change that, and in some areas people tend to have common reactions, so I would think.. you can do something knowing that it's going to "make someone"
What I mean is, we all have different physical pain thresholds too, but if someone smacked me, I would say that they hurt me, even though someone else may not have been bothered by it.
I'm not going to take responsibility for my reaction to being hit. So I'm wondering where the fine line is about "making me feel" and "I feel"
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