Posted by fallsfall on August 24, 2005, at 21:58:53
In reply to Re: Control (long) » fallsfall, posted by littleone on August 24, 2005, at 21:44:06
My control issues are protective as well. It was unthinkable to my parents for anything to fail. I am an intellegent person, and tend to be successful when I try things. So I learned that if I left things up to other people that they might not work out, and then there would be a failure. I trust my own ability more than others (a bit egotistical, for sure). So I want to control things so that I can make sure they don't fail.
I think that "control" is not usually a positive issue. But I don't think it is a very unusual one, either.
GOod luck with your therapist. It sounds to me like it would be worthwhile sticking it out with him. Even if it doesn't sound like it would be fun...
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