Posted by Shortelise on August 12, 2005, at 11:02:15
In reply to Transference making me nuts!, posted by FlyingKangaroo on August 11, 2005, at 19:43:22
transference is a great tool. You can use it.
What we do is work out things with our therapist as if he were the person with whom the emotions originated.
We can love, hate, disparage, lust after, etc. those poor shrinks. Their job is to help us through all of those feelings, and out the others side.
I feel and feel again that my T is going to slam me, reject me, hate me. Ok, my mother pulled lots of stupid crap with me when I was small, and I'm working it out with this blank slate of a T. That's what he is for. We are supposed to tranfer up his one side and down the other.
Go with it, if you can. Talk about it with him/her.
It's often this old stuff that comes up as transference that's the deep deep stuff we need to work through in order to feel better.
I'm sorry it's driving you crazy. I think it drives us all crazy, but it may be the path to sane.
I used to see my T as this evil man, cruelly evil, gazing at me, watching me writhe. Nothing, but nothing could be further from the truth.
(((Kanga)))
ShortE
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