Posted by gardenergirl on August 12, 2005, at 9:23:00
In reply to I said it! The M and the L words...(really long), posted by daisym on August 12, 2005, at 1:20:18
Daisy,
I agree with the others who noticed a shift. You got mad, really really mad, and you let yourself feel and express this. That's big. And expressing it led you into the same pattern (not staying with your experience, but rather worrying about him), which then led you to the more intense feelings. That's big! What an intense few days.I imagine that really delving into your feelings of love was very painful indeed. I'm happy for you that you felt you were able to do this. And then to tell him. That's a huge trust thing, and he didn't let you down. He's a gem, and so are you.
And I'm so glad you posted about this. Love is such a complex thing, and I think that if it's viewed two-dimensionally, it CAN look like a therapy cliche. Your T's explanation, which comes from your work together, is really informative. I hope Ms. Lott is lurking. ;-)
((((daisy))))
Take care,
gg
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