Posted by orchid on August 9, 2005, at 13:53:32
After a 3 year hard core diving into psychology and trying to understand relationships, and getting into all these concepts like projection/transference/replyaing of childhood/working out of abuse etc.. I have finally come to the conclusion - that none of these really matters that much.. And neither that people cannot live according to such theories. This is not the final answer.
The final answer is simplicity, and innocence and simple affection and love for persons, caring for other people as you would care for yourself.
All these concept of being individuals with firm boundaries, relationships being based on strict give and take and need based things - all are fine to a certain extent. But ultimately, it is a two dimensional view of life. It is not the real truth. And nobody will be happy by following and learning psychology. It is needed to work out of problems, but it is not a role model for healthy living.
Real happiness comes from being able to love people unconditionally (atleast to a good extent), and treating everyone well and caring about everyone and loving God, and being simple and keeping God in the center of ourselves and our dealings with others.
Psychology is not a way to learn about life. (From my experience). It is needed to debug if something goes wrong, just as you need to operate on a person if an organ fails, but that by itself doens't make a person happy.
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