Posted by alexandra_k on August 3, 2005, at 17:43:46
In reply to Attachment problems, posted by Deneb on August 2, 2005, at 22:23:23
> I think I have some major attachment problems with people. I don't seem to be able to attach to anyone.
I feel like that sometimes...
> My pdoc for example...she's great, I tell her everything, but I will admit that I haven't missed her one bit since she went on maternity leave. It is like she doesn't exist anymore.Remember how I talked about object constancy before??? About how objects continue to exist when we aren't around vs objects just go out of existence when we aren't...
Part of them continuing to exist when we aren't around is to do with internalising them... So you might be having a bit of trouble and you can think 'I don't know what to do... What would my p-doc say???' and from there you can sort things out for yourself.
It takes time to attach.
Really.
I'm only just starting to feel attached to my current t
And I've been seeing her for... Well... Almost a year now...
> I'm starting to wonder if I am capable of loving a human being.I worry about that too :-(
>It gives me some hope that I am able to have a relationship with my hamster. My plush animals got replaced by my hamster. That is a step forward right? At least a hamster is a living thing.
:-)
Yeah.
> I got really angry at Hammy at first because he didn't do what I wanted him to do. I sort of teased/tortured him a little bit :-(. I think I really scared him. Then I learned to love Hammy for being a hamster. I love him now and wouldn't torture him.That sounds like progress :-)
> Maybe I can learn to love people?I hope so...
And its not just about how you feel...
Its about the things you do as well...
You say lots of caring stuff on the boards.
That helps other people feel like you care about them.
Do you think about the boards and people on the boards when you are off the boards? Think about what people might say to you?
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