Posted by pinkeye on August 1, 2005, at 16:27:23
In reply to Re: Not able to tell my T I liker her so much !! » pinkeye, posted by Tamar on July 31, 2005, at 21:29:28
Thanks Tamar.
I am glad you had a good holiday and even though now you are exhausted physically, it is always good to break away from the routine once in a while.
I am going to tell my current T how much she helped me.. You are right - she never encouraged even a tiny bit of attachment, and she said she doesn't want it, because she understands what it puts me through, but I am pretty sure now she really cares about doing a good job. And she really really always keeps my best thing in her mind - and chooses her response always in such a way that I will benefit from it. So I am really grateful that I went to her. I really admire her professionalism so very much. It must take extraordinary strength to keep listening to a person without telling anything about one self for a year. She hasn't told me even her age - or what she likes or what she dislikes or any of her emotions, other than always always giving me things to think about.
> > Thank you Tamar. I was wondering about you - you were missing in action for some time. !! I hope you had a good holiday.
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> Yes thanks, I had a great holiday. I was back for a couple of days and then suddenly had to go away again for a family wedding, which was great, but now I'm exhausted!
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> > I am going to try to tell her. Maybe mildly. She really deserves that.
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> And so do you! I think it will be a good thing for you if you are able to trust her enough to tell her you will miss her. There are so many symbolic resonances about being able to trust someone you care about. You've made so much progress and gained so much insight in recent months that you really have a lot to build on.
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> > And maybe I will write her a card.
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> > It felt good that she was little emotional. I had thought of her almost like steel like with no emotions.
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> From what you said, she didn't really encourage a very deep attachment. But I tend to think if therapy is going to work there has to be some attachment, even if you don't feel like soul mates. I’m glad that she showed her emotions.I hope it gives you some confidence that it’s OK to show yours.
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> About what you said in your other post, when you said you think she doesn't like you... Didn't you say once that she told you she likes you? I'm sure she was telling the truth and that she really does like you. You're a very likeable person!
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