Posted by pinkeye on July 28, 2005, at 16:41:11
In reply to Re: yep.. being a man with depression must be hard .., posted by rabble_rouser on July 28, 2005, at 8:34:29
:-)
It is an interesting statistics, but I don't know about the statistics in the US.But I know in almost all throughout the world, men talking about feelings too much and getting depressed or sad is not accepted as much as women. For men, anger, shouting, yelling, even beating, gambling, drinking are much more accepted than crying/sadness/grieving/being emotional.
Even I have had that prejudice before with a guy.. There was a guy who used to talk to me about his feelings all the time, and I found it little odd. But now I realize, perhaps it is not odd.
What you have to do it is to sail with the wind.. If it is not accpetable for men to be sad and depressed, mabye just don't tell people or act like that in front of people. Just as I cannot get angry/drunk/yell/shout/throw things in front of people, you cannot cry/feel blue all the time/get emotional in front of people. But in your privacy, you can do whatever you need to do.
> Thanks Pinkeye - I will remember that :)
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> Just read an interesting statistic: "[In the UK] In the age group 16-19 years old - sixteen percent of women suffer from a form of mental illness, with only six percent of men. In the age group 20-54, twenty percent of women, but only six percent of men." Also - "Men, in particular, are at risk of not being treated. They may not recognise their anger or feelings of hopelessness as depression, and are less likely than women to tell someone how they feel. Also, doctors are less likely to suspect depression in men than in women. Men's depression is often covered up by drinking or drug taking, or lots of overtime at work."
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> I have also found that, if a man DOES try to talk about how he feels, people are less likely to listen.
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> Does this ring true in the States?
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> Rabble
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