Posted by Annierose on July 27, 2005, at 16:50:10
In reply to Re: Didn't understand T's questions or comments » Annierose, posted by Dinah on July 27, 2005, at 16:21:51
Dinah -
I do not have any idea re: her financial situation, but I can make some educated guesses. If I knew what her husband did for a living, I could guess a lot better :)
But, I would guess I am better off financially than she is. She is a bright, educated, beautiful, smart woman. (I don't think I have the courage to type my next thought, but I'll try to be gentle). I can't do it ... maybe I'll try to babblemail.
Anyway, my family's business (which I am no longer a part of) is successful. And my parents are in the process of giving the business to the two children who work there. In doing so, they are "buying me out". This has turned ugly, as one can imagine, with my brother who has no conscience, no brain and no heart. My t has been so helpful during these "meetings" that leave me in tears. When this topic first came up, she was very aggressive in her thoughts that I should get every penny I deserved ... get attorneys, etc. That was never my goal. I want to be fair and still have an extended family I can feel semi-comfortable around.
Long story short, when my father suggested meeting again, my T this time, gave completely different advice ... more along the lines of "can you just sit down with your father and come to an agreement ....." Neither approach is working right now. But my husband and I both have jobs and my siblings need me to "sell out" more than I need the money.
I just thought it was interesting how she changed her tune over the course of the year. I often thought she must have read an article on family businesses and second generations, or spoke to someone in a general sort of way. Who knows.
I can't believe how a simple comment has me thinking all these thoughts in so many directions.
Hmmmm ... interesting how the brain works.
Thanks for your comments. They are very helpful.
Annierose
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