Posted by rabble_rouser on July 26, 2005, at 12:50:33
Hello,
Am wondering - does anyone know any good practical techniques for lowering the 'snapping' point, that is the level at which you lose it under stress?
My personal issue is that I respond very badly to any kind of mocking, even when its light hearted. Intellectually I know its meant to be fun, and can accept that a bit of verbal rough and tumble is a bonding experience, but Mr Brain doesnt see it that way.
When I get laughed at, BAM - off we go with the fight or flight response: tunnel vision, raised heart beat, anger, desire to fight back. Very difficult to be 'light hearted' when your brain is in caveman land ... My reaction is more internal also - I tend to just feel depressed and become very quiet, which is a particular pain in the *ss if you then get the "oh i didn't mean to offend you" remark - its impossible to act in a way that says you arent offended!!
I get the same thing with criticism, and hostility from others. I wanna be able to keep my cool!
Dont fancy going back on drugs just for one problem - any ideas / techniques?
Thank you!
Ross
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