Posted by fallsfall on July 24, 2005, at 11:41:18
In reply to Being my own therapist, posted by Dinah on July 23, 2005, at 22:43:27
> But I asked myself the questions my therapist would have asked me, and I think I came to the conclusion that as my son grows stronger and is less affected by it, I'm not able to hide behind his feelings and be indignant on his behalf. So I'm starting to have to acknowledge how irritated it makes *me*. Therefore it's actually bothering me more, though it should bother me less since it isn't hurting my son as much.
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> But now I've figured that much out, I'm stuck. What would my therapist tell me next?*** To be indignant on your own behalf you would have to see that you are worthy. That you deserve a husband who treats you better. You are able to fight for changes on your son's behalf because you think he is worthy. You are worthy, too.
You are quick to own your part of the issue, and excuse his. Can you move to a place where you can own your part of the issue, but ask him to own his part, as well?
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