Posted by spalding on July 22, 2005, at 11:10:50
In reply to Re: Has anyone successfully terminated with a male T?, posted by Miss Honeychurch on July 22, 2005, at 7:20:24
Like Miss Honeychurch, I haven't terminated with my male T., so...
I went with a male T. this time, because my female T.'s in the past were REALLY ineffective. I gained no insight or problem-solving skills, and I felt our sessions were me crying and her (thinking of one in particular) asking me how I felt about it. I'm also bitter about them not referring me to a pdoc while I was showing wild symptoms of BPD. They missed the boat and I went undiagnosed for several years.
And, my mom has inflicted a lot of damage upon me throughout the years. I think this was part of the reason I am now with a male T. He is shining light on that situation like no one has before.
Like I've said before, I'm 99% sure my male T. is gay, so for me, there's no strong physical attraction or feelings of love. About the closest to that, that I feel, is I think he's a nice dresser and cuts a dashing figure. :)
I believe that we definitely have an genuine attachment based on mutual respect, honesty, genuine caring, and humour. He has very definite boundaries in some areas and I'm well aware of what they are and I don't travel to those places. It would be utterly painful to leave because of this attachment and caring, but I know I could leave if I ever had to. I think I could do this because he has helped me immensely and I would be so grateful to go out into the world having had his help. I'd want to make him proud.
So for this gal, the man has been a like a gift from heaven.
Take care everyone.
spalding
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