Posted by alexandra_k on July 15, 2005, at 12:48:46
In reply to Feeling/being regressed...experiences?, posted by gardenergirl on July 15, 2005, at 11:05:03
I guess it is hard because you have to weigh up that part of you feeling heard versus not encouraging it too much.
I mean, the feelings and thoughts there are important. To be able to acknowledge and accept that you do feel and think that way sometimes.
But then... Part of you does know better than to go around and around with that way of thinking / feeling too much. And part of you knows better than to act from them.
So I guess that means that there has to be a balance there somewhere.
I'm not sure that its about him being afraid that you will dive back there and not come back. Maybe it is more that he is concerned that it won't do you very much good to get stuck back there for a while.
But that being said it is important for you to feel heard. And I'm wondering whether maybe you don't feel that he is hearing that side of you. If that is why you get the impression he is afraid of it.
I know I'm afraid of it. I get afraid I'll get stuck there. I really don't think it is possible though (in my more rational moments). I do see that it is possible for me to get stuck there for a time though, and that that wouldn't be terribly helpful to me.
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