Posted by 10derHeart on July 14, 2005, at 19:14:57
In reply to Re: My therapist is great..., posted by Daisym on July 14, 2005, at 18:48:27
...at conveying kindness. It's like he's not just *regularly* kind and caring - but way, way up high on the scale.
It's different combinations of tone, timing of comments, silence filled with respect for my feelings (i.e, not talking over a hard moment, but letting it be...) and the words themselves.
Like this week - and I can't recall the exact start of the conversation - but I know I'd mentioned feeling that if I made a certain life-choice, it would end up, "wounding my spirit even more than it's already wounded." Then there was a long silence with tears trickling down, and me playing with the cap of a bottle and NOT looking at him. I think I said in a younger voice, "You don't understand that, do you?"
He said, "Yes. I think I do. By the way you look."
I asked, "How do I look?" (a very scary ? for me to ask anyone on several levels...)
He said, in a changed tone - the VERY KIND one, "Hurt. Like you're hurt just imagining that. And like you're...thinking...well, you're always thinking...but I mean, really thinking of how much that could hurt."
I can't speak when he does that, I'm so grateful.
Speechless with gratitude?My T. is good at several things, but, yeah, noticing expressions or body language, then delivering a dose of kindness - he's especially good at that. What he does with that is like the best medicine ever. Like emotional holding, I suppose. I can never get enough....:-(
I like my T. very much.
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