Posted by pinkeye on July 8, 2005, at 16:47:13
So it is happening again in work.. Taking other person's responsibility and keeping silent about the other person's slacking off and ending up with the blame in the end by myself. How do I stop??
There is this guy I work with - maybe 15 years senior to me - but he is absolutely being irresponsible.. he is not doing anything he is supposed to be doing. And I am covering his *ss full time. Other members are trying to guard for me, and they are telling me to escalate the issue to my manager, and I find it just impossible to do it.. I am blaming myself, and keep doing his work, and I am slipping in mine and I am not compalining to my manager.. which I really should do, but I don't seem to have the courage.. what if he says I am the one to be blamed, or I should have done it better? Everyone (atleast 3 more people) have told me so far that I am covering up this guy big time, how bad he is really behaving.. but I can't seem to find courage to put the blame on him. And I am feeling guilty about the project going downhill. But I don't seem to be able to bring it up to my mangaer, and he is wondering where my time is being spent. I keep all the conversations and all the stuff that I am working on to myself, and I am slipping in some other deliverables of mine because I am way too overloaded. And I am blaming myself yet again.. Only this time, I am becoming aware of the pattern. I don't take responsibility for things I need to do, but end up taking responsibilities for others.. I have always always done this throughout my life - covering up for my dad..
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