Posted by daisym on July 7, 2005, at 23:45:51
In reply to can someone please tell, posted by crushedout on July 7, 2005, at 20:53:58
I think the sadness is loneliness. And I think the ache is the sadness of lost opportunities for hugs, the wish that someone would notice that you are hurting and know how to comfort you.
I think after all you've been through, you have every reason to be scared of your growing attachment. Therapy is supposed to teach us that it is OK to trust. I don't think that was the lesson you learned. So it will be painful to open that old wound and clean it out so that it can heal. But it sounds like you found someone up to the task. Take it slow and easy and be kind to yourself. There are good things about attachments too. Try not to forget those.
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