Posted by thuso on July 7, 2005, at 23:18:41
How many sessions until it's pretty obvious the relationship isn't going to work?
The first T I had I went 9 months with. I plateaued pretty quickly, but I stuck it out just to see if I would get past it. I didn't and couldn't afford to keep going, so I stopped. I just never got to feeling comfortable with her, so I stalled after a few months.
I just started up again with someone else. We've now had 12 sessions, but I think we're right were I was with the last T. I'm just not feeling comfortable and I'm at another plateau (at least I think so). She wants to stick it out, but I don't want to go another 9 months to come to the same conclusion as the last time. I personally think 12 sessions is plenty to determine if a person feels comfortable. When I first brought up the subject of not feeling comfortable and thinking of stopping, I told her that I would give it until the end of July. We’ve got two more times together. Boy, is she trying hard to make this work. :-)
You guys are experienced...this sounds reasonable, right?
I've tried two female T's with different personalities and neither has made me feel comfortable. I'm thinking my next try should be with a guy T. But then again, I may never feel comfortable with anyone. hahaha!
poster:thuso
thread:524806
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