Posted by pinkeye on July 7, 2005, at 20:37:15
I actually started out being quite cold to her, and she was being cold to me also. And she was extremely non revealing - she wouldn't even tell me her age, or if she is married, and she wouldn't even admit if she went away for a vacation or stayed in town. So I was pretty unattached to her all along.
And now I am terminating, with 3 more sessions to go, I am finding myself liking her a lot.. And I told her that today.. She was very happy. First time I have seen her accept a compliment with happiness.. She said I can come back to her anytime. And she had said she likes me too. It is very very uncomplicated, straightforward, and she understands me perfectly well. I haven't called her out of the office hours even once in the past 1 year.. (not sure if that is a good thing or a bad thing). When she goes on vacation I don't miss her. But I am glad when I have the sessions. And she is not going to write to me or give me her email id after I terminate, and I haven't googled her at all.. but I like her.
It is a dramatic change for me the extremely entangled relationship I had with my ex T. Maybe if he had been a woman, it would have been the same with him too.. all this transference messed it up with him.
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