Posted by alexandra_k on July 3, 2005, at 15:53:32
In reply to Re: all the more reason to direct to people to God » alexandra_k, posted by pinkeye on July 2, 2005, at 23:20:18
> That is what I have tried to convince myelf with ... but somehow it still doesn't make too much sense.. I am becoming much better though..
Yeah, it is hard. Really hard.
I think... It really is a matter of faith.
It is something that you kind of have to talk yourself into.
It is something that transcends the evidence.
It is something that can make a whole heap of difference to how you relate to the people who are in your life and the people who will come into your life.
If you are able to be a little bit at peace with what happened then you are in a much much nicer place in the world then you would be if the world really was really unfair and vindictive etc.
Can you think back to some time in your life (or even some time you have seen on the movies or wherever) where someone cared for someone else but had to leave them anyway? Not so much because of factors outside their control - but within their control? Especially if you were the one that had to leave - that might help you see that that can happen sometimes.I think something like this is a process rather than a decision you only have to make once and then can just move on from it.
I still struggle a lot somedays and really rail at it...
Other days I'm sort of okay with it. Feel a bit peaceful about it. Even though it hurts it doesn't seem unbearable.
I think the hardest thing is to try not to fall into the idealising / devaluing pattern. The either there is something abhorrent about me or they are unnecessarily cruel / negligent pattern.
It is hard.
:-(
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