Posted by pinkeye on July 1, 2005, at 17:06:41
In reply to Approval Addiction (friday, bored, EAT MY POST), posted by rabble_rouser on July 1, 2005, at 16:56:41
Makes a lot of sense. But sometimes, you are brought up that way a lot - to seek approval for each of your actions (like me). And it takes years to let go of it. I don't seek approval from everyone, but from a few people who I hold in that position.
It is actually not that simple to unlearn this approval seeking behavior. Only extensive therapy and trying to understand why you went in that path of seeking approval from others helps. For me, throwing light on why the pattern developed in the first place is the key to unlearn it.. otherwise, I used to read lots of books and journals myself, all these self help books, and it didn't make an inch of a difference. (that is for me). Therapy is what finally helped.
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