Posted by pinkeye on July 1, 2005, at 13:49:01
I think I should never have tried to compare my ex T with the Ts in the US. It is really like comparing apples and oranges - they are totally two different breeds.
They are more like life coaches in India - typically therapy runs for 2 months I think, and me and my ex T attempted something like they do in the US - long term emotional therapy and that too via emails, and he was not trained for it, and hence all the trauma and mess at the end for me.
There really is no point in wishing he was like US T - he is not and he never was. But unfortunately, it didn't prevent me from developing transference and I ended up having to pay the price and pick up the slack myself and figure it out.
And there really is no point in trying to convey anything to my ex T.. Most likely, it would have been over his head and he would have just been totally confused of what I am tyring to say or why I feel so bad. There simply is no point in trying to make him understand and help me out.
I think I have been doing much better lately after that email, and if I proceed in this rate, one day shortly I might be able to think of my exT as an ordinary person and my father also as an ordinary person, and I won't have this intense problems.
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