Posted by spalding on June 30, 2005, at 12:46:29
In reply to Why do I always fill guilty when I call, posted by rubenstein on June 30, 2005, at 11:08:25
Hi there rubenstein:
I totally understand your feelings. I lean on my pdoc and my T. a lot, and also have problems with thinking that others in my life don't want to deal with someone who needs so much.
(Especially with work - my boss is great and never denies my requests -- working from home, time off for dr. visits -- but I think he'll get sick of dealing with me and my needs.)
I see phone calls as an acknowledgement that you need extra support, and who doesn't need that, especially if you're feeling vulnerable, sad, etc. And your T. is OK with it! If he felt something was "off," he would tell you.
And maybe you should talk to him about your fears about calling. It would be so good to acknowledge this...then it would make your phone interactions that much better and focused so you can deal with whatever is going on. I know it's hard to bring in issues about the patient/T. relationship, but I think it would be so helpful.
I hope you feel better about this soon. He's very generous, it sounds like.
I wish you lots of good things!
spalding
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