Posted by 10derHeart on June 27, 2005, at 15:39:08
In reply to Are gifts acceptable at the end of therapy?, posted by happyflower on June 27, 2005, at 14:09:12
Sounds lovely to me. I mean, I'm assuming it won't be a super-expensive pen...like a Mont Blanc or something...to where the actual $ amount might make him react by saying, "you shouldn't have....it's too much....,". you know, like anyone might (not just a T.)if another person "went too far".
But, I'll bet you just mean a reasonably priced pen - and the engraving is perfect, IMO. From what you've said of your T., I'll bet he would really be touched. And you know he'd keep it, use it and think of you in the future...nice thought, isn't it?
When I had to say goodbye to my ex-T. last summer when he moved away, I gave only a card, with a lot of heartfelt stuff written inside. I wish I had added a gift, thinking back. But, we have given each other plenty of *gifts* in the form of emails that I will treasure forever since then. So it kind of makes up for it. The coolest thing was, after he finished reading it (while I squirmed and stared at the floor),he made this obvious show of making a space on his desk, and standing it up near his computer monitor. That gesture meant the world to me.
If you're really worried, though, you could bring up the topic in general, just say it's something you think you'd do whenever therapy ends, and does he have a policy or any special boundaries about gifts.
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