Posted by alexandra_k on June 26, 2005, at 22:35:39
In reply to looking for attention?, posted by looking4hope on June 26, 2005, at 22:06:00
Hey there. I think... I get what you mean. There is something reassuring about physical ailments especially ones that look bad or require casts or stitches or whatever because you can see and feel just what is wrong. There it is. And other people can see it too.
But with mental / emotional pain... What then? It is like when you bang your thumb or arm or something and it HURTS but there isn't anything visible - not even a bruise :-(
I used to hurt myself. A long while ago now. I hurt my legs. Really badly. There was something reassuring about the pain. It distracted me from the emotional / mental pain. The physical pain was there, grounding me in my body. Somehow it felt reassuring.
And the physical pain never went away.
And now I don't get the urge to hurt myself anymore.
I guess I don't need to...
Hmm.Sorry...
Bit of a ramble...
I know my thing is a bit different...
But I think it might be kind of similar so wanted to share.I think it might be attention.
When we are hurt we need attention.
When other people can see something visible they tend to give us that attention we need.
When they can't see anything wrong...
They tend to condemn us for being 'attention seeking'.
But attention seeking isn't bad.
It is just that some people find it hard to get the attention they need.
:-(
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