Posted by Tamar on June 21, 2005, at 18:33:37
In reply to Writing Letter to Therapist, posted by jammerlich on June 21, 2005, at 16:16:15
Hello jammerlich,
> I feel silly that my first post here is about something so relatively insignificant.
I think it's actually quite significant. Naturally you want to be heard and understood by your former therapist!
> I need, need, need to send a letter to my former therapist and, silly as it may seem, I'm in a quandry over whether to send it typed or handwritten. On the one hand, it is personal and I want it to *feel* personal, so I'd like to write it out. But I'm also concerned about the possibility that she won't read it and will just toss it in my file instead. And let's face it, a typed letter will appear much shorter and she might be more likely to read something that seems shorter. What do you all think?
I would send it handwritten because it's more personal. I agree with annierose: I think she'll read it whether or not it's typed.
> This is so dumb that I've had to sit a bit to decide whether or not to post it. I can't believe I'm worried about something this stupid.
I can relate to that worry. I wanted to send a thank-you note to my therapist after I terminated and it took me over a month to find the emotional resources to write all of three sentences! So I can imagine that a whole letter would be quite an undertaking.
> Probably because it keeps me from worrying about how gut-wrenching it will be to write, how nerve-wracking it will be to wait after I send it, and how potentially painful it will be to get the response that I do not want but most certainly expect - or worse yet, to get no response at all.
Yeah. The question of the response is a tricky one. If you've been reading here for a year you'll have seen that different therapists have different policies about post-termination contact. Did you talk about further contact when you stopped seeing your former therapist?
Tamar
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