Posted by happyflower on June 15, 2005, at 23:10:10
Is my T doing something that he learned in T school? Sometimes when I say something a little bold especially about sex my T sort of looks down or stops eye contact with me. Is he trying to tell me with his reactions that I am being inappropiate or something. He is cognititve mostly. Or is he trying to control his feelings about it or torwards me? Is is this something T's learn how to use their body language or something?
Take for instance today... we were talking about how marraige can change over the years. I said yeah, but sex seems to get better. Okay he kept the eye contact still. Then he said that sometimes women going through metapause has heightened sexual feelings ( I thought it was the opposite). I said well I know women reach their sexual peak in their 30's.( I am 36) Everything is still normal. Then this is where he shifted himself. I said I now know what those 18yr. old boys were going through.( laughing) Then while I was saying this he looked away or down at the floor instead of maintaining eye contact like he normally does. I then said, I shouldn't of said that, I am sorry. But I think I as reacting to his reaction. We both maintain good eye contact most always. I have noticed this before when we are usually talking about "my sexual" feelings. Is he trying not to get turned on or is he trying not to react to me, or is he trying to get me to see that I am being too bold? No, I am not going to ask him, I just wanted to know if anyone knows what is going on? Because when we move onto something else, he is back to normal. I find this interesting. lol
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