Posted by TofuEmmy on June 13, 2005, at 17:07:38
In reply to in love with therpist, posted by isla on June 13, 2005, at 16:47:34
Ugh. I'm really sorry you are going through such a confusing sitation with your T.
Some red flags jump out at me here. For instance, I've been to 5 therapists, and all sessions were approx. 50 minutes. If I am WAY crazy, we might extend a bit to be sure I'm safe before I leave. How does he charge you for a 2 hour session? As far as not letting you leave...well, heck, unless you are not safe it's up to you when to leave. I'd be sure I was getting my money's worth, but I leave when I'm worn out. Sometimes he might push me to see if I might have a little more energy, but generally, when I am pooped, I leave.
What is discussed there should primarily be directed by you. The T may need to prod and poke a bit, but generally...it's YOUR dollar.
If HE is doing most of the talking, something is clearly not right, imo. It's your session, not his for the claiming. And an occasional interuption would be understood...but it's odd that it would frequent....and simply rude, imo. It's VERY frustrating to be in that position.
Yes, it's standard for T's to not share personal info, however, I've never heard of one who would not say if he is married or not. Seems like that is a pretty basic question, so you have an understanding of what his personal experience is with long term relationships (yeah it shouldn't make a difference with a good T, but...it does to me anyhow).
Yes, you ought to be the one to say how you feel.Your post title says that you are in love with him. Is he aware of these feelings?
Emmy
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